Ray of Hope

I received this from a friend..............

In the midst of the hopelessness that we have watched helplessly, there are rays of hope. This morning at a meeting, a friend who is Kikuyu but was born and brought up in Lugari (an area where the Kalenjin and several dialects of Luhya are dominant and borders Eldoret), shared with us a story that I wish could be heard on national radio and TV as we have only been treated to the negative aspects. After the major eruption of violence on Dec 30, his mother's two buildings including the granary with the year's produce was burned and her 8 cattle and 20 goats stolen. This was horrifying as she had always been assimilated into that community though she is of a diffrent tribe.

Their local MP, Hon. Cyrus Jirongo who was voted in the small KADDU party, however decided to give leadership to his constituents. He put away his limousine and rode a bicycle to every village speaking to the people and showing them the folly of what they had done. They took the cue! They invited back the Kikuyu lady (as well as others who had been chased away) and different members of the community, in remorse and as a sign of their repentance, took their own produce and animals and restored what the lady had lost!

This is the only way for Kenya to heal back into a nation after the divisions we have seen! We need more of these kinds of transformational leaders!

Playing hard to get......

If you thought this phenomenon was a thing of the past, think again. I have received numerous complaints from guys who wonder why the girls play hard to get and act disinterested and yet they are. The girls on the other hand, enjoy the attention of an interested guy and wonder why after a while he looses interest in her, when she is trying to be mysterious.....

The art of playing hard to get is a more or less natural fall back of the primitive ways of our ancestors (females), who when a simple hair compliment was thrown her way would run all the way home and lock herself up until the guy came and proposed at her door literally begging.......maybe i have exaggerated a wee-bit.

The sense of mystery or unfamiliarity brings a natural thrill of "the chase". Look at it this way- you’re the owner of a luxurious brand who wants to confer an image of superior quality to a buyer. You are not going to achieve this by using “open house," or "I’m desperate, I will take anyone". On the contrary, you are aware that your brand is off the hook and so you make it look like its the buyer missing out on it...

So we see that self-awareness is key. Why you behave the way you behave, why you fear what you fear, why you believe what you believe and do what you do etc. You need to have a degree of unpredictability. Not to be too rigid or controlling, desperate or too eager. An individual who is going to chase you wants to be almost certain that you are worth every stride. To be sure that they are pursuing what is only offered to the privileged few and not what they can easily get on the street corner.

PS: Playing hard to get, done the right way, can be the most powerful form of seduction there is!
PPS:::: i did not encourage you...:-)

Blind date...part 1

Blind dating is only recommended for people who have a sense of humor and who have confidence in themselves to handle any situation that might come along. It is not recommended for control freaks, anxious personalities or individuals that don't handle disappointment or rejection well. If you fear going on a blind date, then don't.

I had an opportunity to go no a blind date sometime back. I found that many fear a blind date because they fear that something will go horribly wrong or that they will be made fun or that they will spend all night at the mercy of a psychotic stranger. I am included in the "many" category.

Under normal circumstances, galz would go on blind dates with backups (read her girlfriends). In my peculiar case, I went solo. Clearly for me, nervousness was taking its toll. Meeting at a public joint was key and so that was arranged.

On arrival at the meeting place, I could not hold my surprise. You see, I did not have high expectations so the little that I had was not met...

The guy I met was tall and cute to say the least. Ok.....he was really tall. probably 6 feet. yeah...i am vertically challenged and hence anything taller than me is pretty tall. but i digress.

The discussion that ensued consisted of common interests like design and animation.

In overall, my rule for blind dates lies in paragraph 1.

Next attraction: Tips for blind dating?

Alone not Lonely.....

Aloneness is a state of being.....like i am alone typing away on the computer, there is no one here with me. Loneliness on the other hand is a state of mind. Loneliness manifests itself in feelings like sad, unwanted, disliked.....etc.

The degree of sadness that the individual feels may vary. When one sits in a crowded room, one is not "alone", but one can still feel "lonely" because loneliness has nothing to do with physical proximity with other people. When one is "alone", one needn't feel lonely.


Because feeling lonely may have dire consequences, the worst of which is suicide, steps need to be taken to keep the feeling at bay:

Find a hobby, if you already don't have one.... Join a book club, or get into a sport...don't be idle and wallow in a miasma of despair....

Secondly, live in the real world....its pretty easy to fantasize about the perfect life from TV, movies n the like....but the imaginary world is very different from the real world...

Another thing, no one can "complete you". Even after marriage to Mr. or Miss perfect, they won't always meet all of your emotional needs. You alone can satisfy urself with good things, good thoughts and thus be less expectant of others to do it for you....

Point to note.....you are not the only person feeling lonely, it's said that 25% of the people around you are also feeling that way so make the first step.........

As elusive as..................commitment!

I think the reason why my grandma and grandpa's relationship has lasted for so long (over 40 years) is the fact that they have a special trait of commitment to each other that is uncommon in couples of today as it were in couples of say yesterday. For one, my grandma and grandpa have always had a willingness to communicate with one another. They have always been able to talk things out. One hand always knew what the other hand was doing. There were no secrets.

I think today’s couples are not willing to conform to the commitment of communication. There's so much individualism, so many secrets. My granparent’s relationship has not always been a smooth one. There were some bumps along the way. There were the arguments and the fights, which eventually ceased and patience, understanding, and trust took over. And with that a beautiful friendship blossomed into a strong, healthy relationship.

Thanks to their bond these old folks enjoy the simple things in life, sitting on the porch watching the sun go down, no one says a word but they come away like it was the best conversation they had ever had..........Credit goes to the commitment they made.

Cupid.....Fact or Fiction

Anyone nursed any cupid injuries? Or did the mischievous little archer strike the wrong heart by mistake?
Fact: Cupid is the god of erotic love(to the Greeks at least).
Fiction: Cupid's arrow makes people fall in love. If the arrow makes people fall in love, what makes them fall out of love? Lack of sustaining the arrow in its place? An arrow thief? Someone in the way of true love?
The issue with love is that it is a complex phenomenon, said to work like a fundamental emotion e.g. fear.
Fact: Romantic love is primarily a reward system, which leads to various emotions, rather than a specific emotion.
There is no facial expression that can be uniquely linked to being "in love".
Fiction: Once in Love always in Love with the same guy. If lovers swear their feelings to be everlasting, the hormones clearly tell a different story. Like a friend of mine puts it, a time will come and "there is no Ummph in the relationship". So what will you be feeding on when the the cupid arrow's effect dies out? Yeah, u may say that your great grandpa n great grandma are still in love but that's not cupid, that's like brotherly love or agape love.....not Eros or romantic.

So what was that you were nursing again? Maybe not Love......maybe like....or infatuation....

Fact: romantic phenomenon persists, and no human culture on Earth, has been proven not to know of romantic love.

New years resolutions........

One thing that comes with the wonderful new year is the need to make resolutions.....and not just any resolutions but ones that SHOULD last the year through.

Looking back at last year, I can confidently say that I lived up to all my resolutions.....ok.....I tried. I said i wanted to live life without regrets and make the best of every opportunity.

I made the best of all the opportunities I got to study harder, read more, get good grades, laugh with my friends etc etc.

the real test came when I was to live life without regrets? Is that even possible? I mean, something goes wrong and I go like " Aarrrgh, i wish i never did that!!!!" That is sooo regretting right? so that is the part that I tried.

This year my resolutions surround one of my favourite songs(We live) sang by one of my favourite bands (Superchick)

The lyrics of the chorus
" We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love"
deep song.....remember to live and to love because life is such a gift. That sums up my resolutions for 2008! Hopefully that will go well ;-)

Eddie Murphy New year's Celebration..........

LOS ANGELES, California (AP) -- Eddie Murphy celebrated New Year's Day by tying the knot with film producer Tracey Edmonds.

Tracey Edmonds and Eddie Murphy were married in French Polynesia on New Year's Day.

The pair exchanged vows Tuesday on a private island off Bora Bora in French Polynesia in front of a small group of family and friends, their representatives told People magazine.

A call to Murphy's publicist, Arnold Robinson, wasn't immediately returned early Wednesday.
Murphy and Edmonds began dating last year and were engaged in July.

Murphy, 46, has five children from his marriage to Nicole Mitchell Murphy, who filed for divorce in 2005. He also has a daughter with Spice Girls singer Melanie Brown.

Edmonds, 40, has two sons from her 13-year marriage to singer Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds. As head of Edmonds Entertainment Group Inc., she has produced the film and television series "Soul Food."

Murphy's film credits include "Dreamgirls," and the "Beverly Hills Cop," "The Nutty Professor," "Shrek" and "Dr. Doolittle" movies.

Happy NEW Year........NOT!

Happy New year to all of y'all.........

Kenya aint so happy this new year though. With the election being the event to end the year, many concerts that were set to happen on 31st were canceled.
So 31st- 1st was spent in the confines of the safe walls of our homes .... for many of us at least.

According to the nation newspaper "Our beloved country, the Republic of Kenya, is a burnt-out, smoldering ruin. The economy is at a virtual standstill and the armies of destruction are on the march in the Rift Valley and other places."

That is basically the situation at it is currently... Whats more, 70,000 plus people have been displaced and over 200 people killed in clashes.

That is sad news people.... if there is anyone out there who prays....this is definitely the time.